Saturday, January 9, 2010

Gossip…but through actions.

Gossip is idle talk or rumors, especially about the personal or private affairs of others. It forms one of the oldest and most common means of sharing (unproven) facts and views, but also has a reputation for the introduction of errors and other variations into the information transmitted. The Webster dictionary define it as…
1. Light informal conversation for social occasions.
2. A report (often malicious) about the behavior of other people; "the divorce caused much gossip".
3. A person given to gossiping and divulging personal information about others.
But if we see and think about it what we gain and what we lose from it? Most of the time this word create a negative notion within us. Is it really so?
The Human societies have evolved from such a processes, which we can’t deny. Either it’s the empires of ancient world or the modern races we use to do it but by any other strategic name or by some other acceptable way.
Coming down to the hierarchy, if the two individuals are talking or discussing about any third person, which also seems to a gossiping? Can we separate it from ourselves then and did we loose or gain anything from it?
Sometimes I feel that it’s the internal frustration which comes out in the form of gossip for the person we are gossiping and sometimes we feel very comfortable and it start becoming habit of us. But is it really the only way to take out our frustration in this manner? No there are so many ways to do that which Sigmund Freud called as defense mechanism.
We are frustrated about the govt. or any system we gossip?
We are frustrated with our friends, collogues, or to our relatives we gossip?
On our every frustration we gossip…. so why not to direct this negative energy out of us in a constructive way?
Sometimes we write poems, articles or start planning to take initiatives when we see poverty, sufferings or anything of such kind and that’s the way we can gossip through our actions but not by our words.

Tehseen Haroon

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